We’ve been sitting on this video for weeks now and I wasn’t sure if I was going to post it at all.
I went through a great deal of deliberation and discussion over this decision, but one of the most persuasive and powerful arguments I received in favor of posting it came from Bonnie B., who reviewed the video and provided this analysis:
Melissa Jordan is clearly in danger. I don’t think she fully realizes it, yet, and she is minimizing it.
Do you see the tragedy in just her statement about being a Christian and thinking divorce is a bad thing?
She had tearfully stated earlier that her husband keeps her “under his thumb” – and religious right-wing nuts of the male persuasion think a woman’s place is to be totally subservient. I was taken aback when she said that HE had threatened HER with divorce, if she ever did anything about his abuse. So sad. So scary.
Kris has isolated her – that is an abuser’s most powerful tool – and she doesn’t even realize it. You don’t see it happening when you are in her situation, and once you are isolated, the abuser will break your spirit and try to weaken you by means of financial, social and cultural (religious) means.
I’ll warn you in advance: this video is tough to watch. Especially if you’ve already watched Kris Jordan’s discussions with Deputies that occurred at the same time inside their home.
In that video, Kris is offering the officers “diet soda” and claiming his wife just overreacted because, you know, “girls do that”, while his wife is outside crying and upset and trying to figure out how she ended up in her current situation and how she’s going to get out of it.
I find it difficult to understand how the Delaware City Prosecutor’s office watched the whole video of Melissa Jordan and didn’t think charges needed to be filed against Kris. I think most people, after viewing this video and hearing, in Melissa Jordan’s own words, about the years of abuse and violence, will come to the conclusion that some sort of intervention is desperately needed in the Jordan house.
According to Melissa, “This is not new, he’s done this numerous times” but she’s been too “scared to do this for three years.” “It’s easy to keep me under your thumb when you do that because I’m too scared to call. But I’m sick of being too scared to call.”
She also talks about his violent outbursts: “I can’t tell you how many things he’s busted and broken.. destroying things in fits of anger” and she worries that when the officers leave “he’s going to break my phone.”
About 2 years ago it started getting “violent and physical”, she says. “He started pushing me” and “it’s getting stronger” and “he has bruised me in the past.”
The Deputy interviewing Mrs. Jordan provides her with some remarkably good advice: “There’s no reason to be in a relationship to be scared.” He also talks about his experience with other cases: “I can tell you from experience that things aren’t going to change – the physical violence will continue – without ‘some sort of divine intervention'”
I think we all hope Melissa takes the officer’s advice.